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Today was get-out-of-the-house day. We've been snow bound. Oh, not
really but it makes a better story than saying we had no place to go
since Friday. Today was different. We had a mission. We had to get
haircuts and lunch and visit the bookstore before they were tempted to
take us off their speed dialer.
After our haircuts, we were in
Cracker Barrel waiting for our chicken fried chicken and biscuits when
over the sound system came a guy vocalizing, "I've got spurs that
jingle, jangle, jingle as I go ridin' merrily along and they sing, oh,
aren't you glad you're single and that song ain't so very far from
"Don," I asked my husband, "Is that Bill Wills singing?"
"Late, late night. Girl, girl, boy," he answered.
"Okay," I thought, "what does that mean on the Planet Aphasia?" Will
someone tell me why it takes fifteen minutes to translate something like
that? But it did finally come to me. Don's enigmatic reply was telling
me that the cowboy singing was Tex Ritter. It's really quite cleaver how
he can find ways to communicate with so few words at his disposal. 3's
Company comes on TV late at night and John Ritter (plus two girls)
starred in the show, and John was the son of Tex Ritter. This is what
it's like living with my husband's language disorders, aphasia and
apraxia; he speaks in aphasic tongue and I translate it into earth
English. It's daily, mental gymnastics.
After we got our coats
on to leave the Cracker Barrel, Don did one of his famous 'roll ups' to
our restaurant mate's table. "Handicapped. Six---no. Five---no. Four!
Vegetable," he said as an introduction.
I quickly translated:
"My husband had a stroke four and a half years ago and we were told that
he'd be nothing more than a vegetable."
"You sure fooled them," the woman beamed and Don beamed right back at her.
"GM. Snowplow," Don replied and I translated: "My husband worked at GM
and had a commercial parking lot maintenance business on the side. He
was a workaholic."
"Oops!" Don chimed in while using a hand
gesture that punctuated my sentence. Then he drew his shoulders down,
making himself look like a little boy getting balled out by his mother
"Oops," again. That time in a comical tone. Everyone laughed.
"Don," I nudged him along, "we've got to get going now." He didn't
want to leave but we said our good-byes. They said their "good lucks"
and "you're doing greats." The strangers didn't know it but they had
just met the Ambassador from the Planet Aphasia.
Out in the
parking lot, I got ready to load Don up and move him out. I peered
across the street, judging the distance to our next stop to be less than
a city block. I saw the bungee cords in the back of the Blazer and not
for the first time I speculated that I could hook them up to Don's
wheelchair (with him still inside) and just pull him along behind the
car. This would save me a lot of work if I could do without a few
chair-to-car and car-to-chair transfers. But it's January and the wind
chill was a serious factor so I decided to put that experiment off to
On the way across the street Don was getting
sleepy and I thought, "Oh, boy, I get a vacation!" So, I booked a suite
at Linens & Things and left my man in the car while I went inside to
shop. I was having a good time, too, pushing a cart and doing my best
imitation of a Stepford Wife. I wasn't wearing the classic sun dress,
luminous lipstick or spiked heels but I did have an imaginary book on my
head so my posture was perfect. As I lusted over a stainless steel
toilet brush holder a song from long ago came over the sound system. It
could have been Dianna Ross and the Supremes crooning, "Baby, baby,
where did our love go wrong? Baby, baby, don't leave me alone." That's
when I remembered poor Don out in the car.
"Oh my God!," I
thought, "I've been in here so long that the floor boards on our three
year old Blazer have probably rusted through and he's gotten over come
by exhaust fumes!"
I rushed to the cashier and wrote her a
check. The date I put down was two days behind and I wondered how many
days I'd have to forget before I'd cross over from 'flaky' to 'senile.'
She asked for my driver's license. I mistakenly handed her Don's picture
ID. The girl looked at me then down at the card, studying it carefully.
Quickly I pulled the right card out of my wallet before she could tell
me that I looked better with the mustache.
The bookstore was our
next stop and by the time we were ready to go home from there, I was so
tired that thoughts of bungee cords and thrill-riding Don all the way
home seemed pretty darned do-able.